Pastors Ron and Hope Carpenter have been fixtures in the Upstate community for years since forming Redemption World Outreach, one of the first mega-churches in this area.
On Sunday during his sermon, Carpenter said his wife is in isolation in a one-year treatment program in a situation he called tragic.
During the sermon, Carpenter said he and Hope had gone through 10 years of struggles. During the weekend, she checked in to a rehabilitation program out of state, where she will remain for an entire program.
The Carpenters have been married for 23 years. Carpenter said at first it was like a fairy tale.
"It was amazing; she was the absolute love of my life. It was the first time I've ever given my heart away - never intending to give it away again," Carpenter explained.
The fairy tale ended however on Easter Sunday 2004 when Carpenter said Hope changed.
"She totally removed herself from ministry, totally removed herself from women of Hope, she never spoke, she never preached," he said.
He said the behavior continued during the next six years. And in 2010, Carpenter said Hope admitted to having multiple affairs. It was at the same time Redemption World Outreach was putting together a marriage conference.
"The marriage conference was already half way sold out, and $25,000 worth of deposits were made for rooms and we couldn't back out. I had no idea what to do," said Carpenter.
The conference went on in 2011 but it was canceled in 2012. Carpenter said during this time he and Hope went to therapy.
But it was early last week when things hit rock bottom. Carpenter said Hope admitted to having even more affairs and said everything deteriorated from that point.
"In the state which I saw my wife leave I wouldn't want anyone anywhere to have access to her. It is that bad," said Carpenter.
Carpenter told WORD Radio Monday morning that the infidelity is only five percent of what's going on in Hope's life.
"There were two distinct double lives. This is not a fling. Not an affair. There was a whole other life and culture and dress code and friends," explained Carpenter.
A lot of people have asked why Carpenter decided to go public with all this Sunday during his sermon.
He responded by saying, "I have to tell my people because I know them. I do teach them faith, I do teach them to believe that there is a God that does miracles. But I could not mislead them because the behavior has become so detrimental to the family unit I ‘m having to turn my efforts to bring some stability at home."
Carpenter said he doesn't plan to reconcile with Hope and went on to say he has no plans in stepping down as Senior Pastor at Redemption World Outreach.
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